At the beginning of 2017 amidst the whirlwind that was the election, I got into a somewhat heated discussion on my personal Facebook page. I was so frustrated with the entire discussion that I ended up deactivating my Facebook account for a while just to escape what felt like an increasingly negative place.

I loved the break.

I enjoyed the break so much so that I didn’t want to get back on Facebook, yet at the same time I really missed the platform. I missed seeing what my *real life* friends were doing. I missed the connection I felt from it.

I reactivated my account and decided to only approve friend requests from people who I actually knew in real life. You might be thinking – well duh – doesn’t everyone only approve people they know on their personal Facebook page. Well maybe…but maybe not…I’ve virtually met a lot of people in the 8+ years I’ve been blogging…so it seemed completely normal for me to have hundreds of friends on my page who I had never met before.

What the heated discussion made me realize is that I really value having a personal space that has nothing to do with Mile Posts {or running for that matter} and I had completely lost that on all platforms online. I thought I could create what I wanted with a private instagram account and a fully private Facebook – but that didn’t happen and that’s OK.

I like social media, I enjoy blogging, I {somewhat} like what is considered over sharing on the internet. I wrongly assumed that because I like the online world I could create the space I was craving here – I can’t. I can however create that space offline. Once upon a time in the not so distant past offline was all there was, so it’s not a revolutionary idea to create what you want away from any computer or keyboard.

When I first came back to Facebook after my break I was careful how I was using it. I felt hyper aware of how much time I was wasting and how easy it was to get sucked in to scrolling and liking for hours. That awareness lasted for a while, until again I became somewhat addicted to checking in to see what everyone else was up to. It became a way to distract myself. A distraction I both love and despise.

I have BIG-for-me professional and life goals for 2018. I know I won’t achieve half of them if I don’t come up with a way to be more intentional with the time I have. Life is short – I want to make the time I have left meaningful. Taking A Break From Facebook

Photo: Leg #2 of a triathlon of a “different kind” while in Kona with Gatorade Endurance. AKA one of the best weekends of 2017. {Yes that’s Luke McKenzie!!}

So while I can’t get rid of social media entirely I can cut down on where I’m reacting instead of creating and for me that’s my personal Facebook page. So….I’ve decided to deactivate my personal Facebook page for the month of January and then re-evaluate when the month is up. Some might consider my break cheating – since I still have a {friendlesss} Facebook profile that I will use to manage Mile Posts by Dorothy Beal and the I Run This Body running group. But this is MY break – so I get to make MY rules {wink}.

Another thing I’m taking a break from in January is alcohol….

{I’m currently on day 24 because I wanted to head in to 2018 feeling REALLY good}…..you can read more about that below! I’d love for you to join me {and others} for the month and see what we can accomplish when we have no wasted {pun intended} days in January!!

 

Not long ago I wrote on the chalkboard in my office this question ➡️ WHAT CAN CHANGE IN 30 DAYS? 🌟 I was feeling ick and desperately wanted to feel good again. I knew a change was in order. •2017 was literally one of the best, if not THE best, years of my life. I traveled to – Ft. Lauderdale, Boston, the Outer Banks, Raleigh, Chicago, Virginia Beach, Richmond, Vancouver, Kona, New York, Vegas, and back to Chicago. I basically ran, drank and ate my way through the year and it was AWESOME 🔥 but there is always a tipping point of excess – a point where it stops being fun – a point where it’s no longer adding to your life – a point where it starts to take away. When I got home from my sister’s wedding 19 days ago I knew the answer to my question. What can change in 30 days!? EVERYTHING. Think about it. ❤️ Truth be told I have zero regrets about 2017 but I’m also hella excited for 2018 to arrive! I have new-to-me running goals and a whole host of life goals. ❤️ 19 days ago I also decided it was time to take a break from drinking for a bit – to focus on goals and feeling good again….AND it’s working. I’m sharing this with you because I’ve been overwhelmed with messages from people saying that you too want to make a change & that cutting out drinking for awhile might be it. If that’s you – join me in January for Dry January! I’m going to try to help keep you accountable while also keeping myself accountable. You can be doing this for any reason – I’m not here to ask you your why or judge you in any way. I’m just here to be a voice to encourage you and to hopefully motivate you❤️ I believe we are stronger together. Last winter I took a break from drinking for 88 days & I’m telling you it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I know 💯% that 2017 was one of the best years of my life because I started it off with a clear head! I had plenty of time to focus on what I wanted out of MY year & how I was going to go about achieving that. I want that for you!! ❤️ 19 days of change & I feel happy & strong AF. Some of the changes show on the outside {which is cool} but the ones that really matter – I feel on the inside ❤️ #irunthisbody #makemoderationsexy

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Comments

  1. “Life is short – I want to make the time I have left meaningful.” — YES. This. 100%.

  2. I like this post a lot. Admittedly, I probably won’t give up facebook. However, the quote: What can change in 30 days really struck a cord with me. We all say there are things we want to do…but take too much time. There is so much we can accomplish in 30 days. I have a lot of personal goals I also want to accomplish in 2018 and I’m looking forward to seeing where they take me.

  3. I hear you. I’ve written a few cookbooks, and like you, wound up amassing “friends” who were not real-life friends. Some folks actually did end up being friends and we just clicked, while others just drained my energy. So I have culled my list. I think an occasional social media cleanse is a good thing. Just discovered your blog, BTW, and love it! Happy 2018.

  4. Love this. I will be joining you in January. Thank you for sharing. You’ve inspired me to effect a change.

  5. I hear you. My Facebook usage has drastically decreased in the last year and I have noticed that I often feel worse after going on Facebook than I did before I opened it. I’m inching toward leaving it all together, but my local running group is active, so not sure what to do…Looking forward to hearing your thoughts post-Jan. Happy New Year! :-)

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