I love life.

I consider myself a student of life, I make plenty of mistakes BUT I learn from them.

When I learn something big I want to shout it from the roof top. I’M A DIFFERENT PERSON TODAY. Better than the day before.

As a child I went to a private Christian school – we did not carpool but rode a bus.

This is the first year I have had a child in pre-school where there was an option of carpooling. My husband suggested my best friend and I trade on and off with picking up the kids since our children are in the same class. I thought it was sort of a silly idea. I only live 15 minutes from his school so why would either of us want to drive over to the others house? How would it make things easier?

When my friend suggested it too. I thought OK I’ll try it.

I learned a valuable lesson in the process. When I had my friends daughter in the car I did not talk on my cell phone. I asked her and my son about their day. I talked to them the whole way home. I know this may make me sound like a bad mother because you are wondering what I normally do in the car when I have my own three kids, but if you are a parent of little children you will likely understand.

There is no time of the day other than when my children are sleeping or when we are in the car that they are in the same position and unable to get into trouble. When I am in the car it is one of the only chances I get during the day to pick up the phone and talk to a friend or family member semi uninterrupted. It never occurred to me to think about it as a time when my kids were confined and actually had to listen to what I was saying.

This realization makes me happy. I talk to my friends less, which yes is not fun BUT I talk to my kids more. I use this time in the car as a valuable resource rather than time to kill between getting from here to there.

I remember as a child listening to adults say – time flies when you have children. Now I am one of those parents. Time flies. My daughter is over 5 years old and it seems like she was just born yesterday. In less than 13 years she will be ready to leave our house for college. 13 years is a VERY short time in the scheme of things.

Carpooling taught me to pay attention to my kids more and remember what the most important job in my life will ever be – being Chloe, Miles and Colton’s mommy.

It’s important to keep running in perspective. It is amazing and I certainly can not and do not want to imagine my life with out it but it is a gift that can be taken away. In striving to be better runners we need to remind ourselves that times on a clock are just that. A time. Time spent making memories are more important than numbers. I had an amazing time on Sunday at Marine Corps Marathon, not because I ran a 3:21 but because I made memories that I hope last a lifetime.

Photo courtesy of  Run Dash

Thank you Miss S for opening my eyes.

I am a student of life.


  1. The Samsons says:

    Sophie loves riding with you all! It is soo tempting to not be present in the moment, especially in the car!

  2. Karen the "Hungry Mom" says:

    if sohpie was in my car, id DEFINITELY be listening closely, that girl aways has something funny to say!

  3. you make me excited to be a mommy : ) I think your blog is so honorable because you admit that there is still a lot to learn in life- I feel the same way : )

  4. Jessica (Pace of Me) says:

    You have NO idea how much I needed to read this today, Dorothy. Thank you for reminding me to keep it all in perspective. xxxooo

  5. Lindsay @ Lindsay's List says:

    A great reminder, mama! And so true about making the most of our time! Will be turning off the radio today!

  6. Soo true! Our household is in the weird teenage stage and the car is one of the rare times my son will engage in conversation with me and I treasure those moments when I see he's hearing me.

  7. I agree–my son and I have some of the best conversations in the car! When I drove him and his friend to a school field trip a couple of weeks ago, the 3 year old conversation in the back was hysterical!

  8. Thank you for posting this Darcy! Things have been challenging with baby J but you just opened my eyes and heart…time flies by fast and I need to cherish every moment no matter how difficult. Love you and this blog!

  9. I love this post as my kids are now teenagers. I’ve experienced this same lesson myself. You do act differently and ask different questions when you are carting around additional kids, and it’s amazing what you can learn about your own kids when others are there with you.
    I’ll also chime in about teens in the car…it’s one of the easiest times to talk to them since there’s very little eye contact, (at least there shouldn’t be if you’re driving carefully :) ,and it can bring out a type of intimacy that’s rare at that age….
    Cherish this time!

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