Earlier this year I decided that I was going to intentionally focus on positive things, quickly pushing out the negative from my mind.

Every day I take time to focus{even just for a moment} on one thing that makes me happy, something I am grateful for. I had a bad habit {I believe you than many negative qualities about people are simply habits that need changing – myself included} of focusing on the negative, the things that annoyed me stuck longer with me, than those that didn’t.

Now without even trying I think of the positive. Sometimes the positives are small things, other times they are people, or still other times it’s just a general sense of peace I feel happy about.

Yesterday when I walked out of my house, the sun was shining, and I had this overwhelming feeling of being really thankful for this tree in front of me.

Thankful

 

Yes, it’s just a tree, but it symbolizes so much more to me.

Looking at the tree made me feel thankful for a husband who works hard every day to provide for our family. He typically leaves at a ridiculous hour in the morning, and for years I have felt bitter that I couldn’t wake up and run like most people could {this is irrational because there are plenty of people who can’t wait up and run – but all I could focus on was those that could}. That I couldn’t see the sun rise on a run or have him help me get the kids ready for school. I don’t look at it that way now.

He is home earlier than most, meaning he gets to spend hours with our kids every day, not just 30 minutes before their bedtime. He is active in their daily lives, not just a weekend dad. I’ve switched my attitude to dwell on the positives of him leaving early for work and no longer mind his earlier than most schedule. I no longer want a normal life, for what is normal anyways. I’ve stopped looking at what I don’t have and focus on what I do have.

I’m a GIANT work in progress but I do believe that focusing on positive things leads to more positive, whereas negative only leads to more negative.

Those are my ramblings for the afternoon. My latest post for Women’s Running is up if you want to hop over to their blog and read it. I’m talking about ways to fit in strength even if you have a busy schedule! http://womensrunning.competitor.com/2014/11/mile-posts/mile-posts-5-easy-exercises-can-day_32684

 

Hope you are enjoying your Thursday! xoxo Dorothy

Comments

  1. I needed to hear this today. Yesterday was a rough day. I hear my son is being bullied on his walk home from school because he has long hair and his favorite color is purple. My mother is being bullied by her new boss at work. And I’ve been just feeling heartbroken all day about it. They are things that I have very little influence over. My daughter is disabled. One of my other sons struggles at school. Then my youngest got shoved over by his friend and cried all the way home from school today. We are getting our first snow and my kids have to walk home from school in it because carpool fell through this year and I work full time. It’s easy to let these things drag us down. Make us sad. I like the baby step of focusing on just one thing a day to feel positive about. Thank you Dorothy!

  2. shannan says:

    Great post! I can totally relate and myself have been trying to focus on the more positive things in life. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this struggle. :)

  3. It’s so important to focus on being grateful for the big and small blessings in our life. A thankful and positive outlook is life changing!

  4. I came here to get a link from your social media post for my blog post, and read this. Yes. I need to do this. Thanks for the reminder.

  5. I can totally relate to this. I’ve been really working on focusing on the positives lately and it’s amazing how much happier you can be when you start to do that. I have noticed the negatives coming in the last couple of days because I have been really stressed out, but I just have to keep reminding myself to be positive and cut myself some slack.

  6. good post . As i read the post , i totally put myself and evaluate . really good one . keep it up ..
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  7. Positive feelings reduces anxiety and depression. Gratitude is the key to happiness and positive energy.

  8. This morning I just made the promise (again) to focus on gratitude instead of lack. It’s a skill to say the least but it makes a very deep impact on my life. Everything is better and I seem to attract more good into my life. A simple task with huge benefits.

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