A well said compliment can lift your spirit and change the course of the day. Why then is it so hard to accept a compliment gracefully with no asterisks following it?
Wednesday was my first day of Bible Study for the fall season. A couple of years ago a friend invited me to come to an introduction class and see what her Bible Study Fellowship was all about. I went – it wasn’t bad, but I decided it wasn’t for me. I made up excuses of why I just didn’t have the time for it – when really my heart just wasn’t ready for it.
Fast forward a year I decided to give it a try again. [a lesson all of us can learn – just because you don’t like something once doesn’t mean you might not grow to love it if you try it again at a later date – THINK – Oh I hate running – I tried that 5 years ago – try it again!]
Last year we studied the book of John and I’ll tell you it was downright interesting. John, The Bible, and interesting are probably not three words that would have ended up in the same sentence together if you had talked to me two years ago.
Some of the girls and I who really enjoyed the study last year[some runners, some non-runners] decided to form our own little summer Bible study on the book of Esther. Again I’ll say it was downright interesting. I not only learned more about Christianity but got a further glimpse into Jewish history.
I believe in signs – they are there. It’s up to you to see them. The overall group leader read a verse about how she felt about her life as a new mom, over 30 years ago. It was my quote. I knew I was in the right place.
Isaiah 40:31 – But those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Wednesday I saw women I had not seen in over 3 months. The compliments flowed in how great I looked and how tiny I was for almost being 31 weeks. Had this been any normal day I would have responded to their comment with “me – tiny? oh you are being nice – I’ve gained over 30 lbs and seriously I’m huge”
How do such things make the compliment giver feel?
I respond this way to compliments on a regular basis. Why?
I’m pretty sure I do this because some where inside me, something says that if you gracefully take the compliment then you agree with what the person is saying. Oh you like my outfit – it is fabulous! Oh you think I’m small – darn right I am! These are not things I think so I respond negatively.
That day I decided that the more positive way, the more uplifting way to live my life is to say a simple “thank you”
No need to put yourself down when someone is saying something nice. Accept it. Roll with it. Let it bring your day to a better place.