Five years ago I didn’t know there was such a thing as running blogs. I also didn’t know that people other than your friends and family would stumble upon your blog and start reading it. Call me naïve to the world wide web.
In 2012 I started using instagram and loved finding new runners to follow and connect with. It was a fun way to promote my blog and also make some friends and I really enjoyed it.
I followed thousands of people on twitter and instagram and got countless blogs emailed to me daily.
Then something happened.
I’d wake up run 5 miles – eat a healthy breakfast post run and sit down to look at my phone.
Suddenly I felt like crap about my 5 mile run. 10 miles – how did that girl run 10 miles before work?
13 miles how did that woman run 13 miles when she has 3 kids? I have 3 kids – I don’t have time for 13 miles on a Monday and I work from home.
Wait what how did that person have time to fit in a 20 miler before her husband left for work. What time does her husband leave for work?
My 5 miles suddenly didn’t seem like enough.
I compared how much I worked out that day with others and it wasn’t healthy because what many of these people were doing wasn’t healthy. I also compared brand type of things – why is this company working with this girl? Or why did they send her this box and not me? Social media was allowing me to compare on many different levels and not only was it silly in the scheme of things it wasn’t healthy FOR ME.
A year ago I decided to take back charge of my online life, dwell on the positive, and only do what works for me, not what others wanted or expected me to do.
Dwelling on MY positive. That meant unfollowing people on twitter and instagram and unsubscribing from certain blogs. Not everyone that I unfollowed was unhealthy – please don’t get me wrong – I wanted to clear out anything that was distracting me from being my best. Not their best or your best but MY best.
It also meant that I no longer detail out every single workout I do on this blog – I don’t tell you my training plan and I sporadically include what I ran that week. I think that running plans or goals should be individual to the runner and I don’t believe that copying me or anyone else - workout for workout is the best way to train.
One of my goals for 2014 is to take the quote “comparison is the thief of joy” to heart and remember to practice this in my daily life.
There is always going to be someone – faster – fitter – skinnier – seemingly happier – smarter – seemingly better – etc – WHY compare? My goal is to the best VERSION of myself and not a half assed compared version of someone else. I want to be happy with what I am doing and not worry about what everyone else is doing. I know it’s hard in this day and age when you know what EVERYONE – your friends and people you don’t even know are doing – but it’s worth it for your happiness to not compare.
*disclaimer this post was inspired by a thread on gomi – which YES from time to time I do read.